If we want to raise great men we need to love great women; starting with ourselves
Can you be powerful in your femininity without bowing down to the patriarchy of masculine traits? I think so. I am a woman. There is very little about me that is masculine, expect perhaps some PCOS related hormone issues (stupid PCOS). Raising a son has made me face how to best show him the strength of women. I am powerful not because I play by man's rules in man's games but because I am a woman, playing out my own dreams that are so common for women everywhere. In today's world being a mother is as undervalued as it is dissected. I have recoiled at some of the things I have heard others say about mothers and women.
Why is femininity powerful? Isn't it sad that we have been so programed to value masculinity that we need to even ask that question? To be feminine is to be nurturing, to soften the edges of this living thing, to grow life, to be tougher than diamonds and silly in our natural sense. Women can see the humor in the darkest edges. We can grow and feel and see the wonder that is life.
We can do better, we can be better at seeing the wonder in ourselves. If we want to raise great men we need to love great women; starting with ourselves.
Give yourself a breast massage. This is not some kinky little nighttime activity. Your breasts are not sexual unless you want them to be. Learn to respect yourself, your body and your feelings by giving attention to parts of your body that you feel shame of or are weirded out about touching in a normal, non sexual manner.
Wear pink. This sounds silly, but you will be amazed at how empowering it is to walk into a business meeting, sit down at a play-date or grab a smoothie while wearing an overtly and completely unapologetically womanly outfit.
Speak up and don't say sorry. There is nothing inherently feminine about being a meek little deer who gets walked all over. Stand up for yourself and don't be embarrassed to demand your needs be met.