What do people say? You would be amazed at how much people are willing to say about their true selves. We should all quiet our inner noise and listen to the people around us. If a friend tells they're moody and rude, listen. If someone you love says they need support, listen. If we really want to "see" the people around us for who they are then we need to listen as well as look. It can be easy to get distracted by all the busy hums we shroud ourselves in. We're busy, we're tired, we're focused on ourselves to exclusion of all other details. To be happy you have to understand who people really are and to do that you need to stop and pay attention.
Who has offered to help you in the last week? First you need to define what "help" means to you. It might be a phone call from a friend, it might be cleaning the kitchen from a spouse. If the people around you aren't offering help and real connections through being there for each other then you should reevaluate what they are doing in your life.
Do they ever do something for you that doesn't help them? Sometimes we will allow someone in our life that just isn't good for us. When we really take the time to see them we realize that they are just leeching off our energy and not giving anything back.
When was the last time you felt free around these people? The biggest gift we can give the people around us is to allow them the freedom to be themselves without judging or evaluating them. Look around and see who the folks nearest you really are.
1. Believe what people say about themselves.
2. Understand the value of being yourself around someone.
3. Consider what the last kind thing they did for you was.
4. Why do you think they are good to be around?