The Emotional Diet Begins
What are 3 things you wish to change about your life?
Go ahead and take a minute to write down the first three things that come to mind. Once you have your mini list read it over and give a little contemplation to how these top three things in your life would change your happiness levels.
Do you want more money? Many people list some sort of financial level to measure their success in life and therefore happiness. However, so often in the friends I talk with about making their lives a more vivid and joyful experience getting more money would not really solve any of the many issues in their way of a better and happier life. When you really look at what will "make" you happy money is an easy but false facilitator.
Do you want to live in a different part of the world? Many of the folks I talk to bring up the idea of moving as a means to gaining joy. The idea that moving from one place to another will move your emotional placing is common and a key to our mind's misdirection. A distraction from true ways in which to change our behaviors and ways of thinking to achieve a "diet" of happiness.
Are you hoping for a change of attitude? Our attitudes, the way we process disappointments and successes does not just change magically over night if we will it to once. This is a long term goal and one that requires a great deal of focus and self understanding, even in the harsh light of our worse selves.
Pick out three distinct issues or concerns you want to change in your life. Write them down and put the listed concerns somewhere safe. Now relax. No one is going to punish you if you do not finish the 'diet'. You are your own worst critic, your harshest teacher and your bravest knight in shining armor (come here little white horse).
Take a week per each section of your diet's list. Start and finish your goal for change of each personal concern on a Sunday. Staying organized when you are trying to succeed at change is very helpful, it will keep you focused and on track. By marking a day of the week you are focused in on getting the issue dealt with.
Depending on your job try to pick a couple weeks that will not be peak busyness so you can spend a little extra time focusing on yourself and your well being.
Try to keep in mind the outcome you hope for not just the list to be checked off or things you must do. If you get overwhelmed working towards change keep focused on the good outcomes, the positive life reactions.
Once you have finished working through your three-piece diet of change program then you can keep on track by realizing the positive aftereffects. Focus on respecting the time you spent completing and handling your "diet". This can be well worth the effort. Your goal can be to increase happiness, to be mellow enough to experience the moment and to share more joy through your own open heart. You can do it, get started now.
Give It All Away
All you have attained in this world will only give you joy when you give away all that you have.
We retain nothing of what we have in this life except love and the lessons learned from grabbing ahold of and relinquishing the need for the precious parts of life.
What do you have that really matters? My family is a huge part of my joy; my son, "furbaby" and siblings are all equally a part of my family.
When we think about value it is such a dangerously easy mistake to count things and not the people in our lives or our feelings about them as valuable. So much of our time as the New Year approaches is spent on foolish endeavors and worries. We worry about eating too much, indulging too deeply and not enjoying ourselves. Give all of that away.
As much as we give away unneeded possessions and sluff off dead layers of aging skin. You do not need to hold on to anything but what is truly valuable. Every extra layer and object we collect only burdens our hearts and minds needlessly.
Love is the only commodity truly needed in life. It is what goes with you into the next spot, nothing else in our pharaoh's tomb will follow us. So what can any of us do to help ease the difficulty of letting go? Make a list of everything you value in the sort of way that you can not be with out. Now see how much on that list is an object, how many people are on there?
Cross off the 'things' and look at the people on the list. There does not need to be a ton of people but look at them and think about how many of those folks you really feel love for and from.
Now sit in a silent area of your home and release the objects on your list. Think about each one, the feeling of need you associate with it and with a deep breath let it out. Once you have gone down the list of objects think about each person and take a few deep breaths. Now try to really focus on the way each one makes you feel, hold that in your heart as you go down the list. Once you have thought about each person of deep impact and importance on your list let those feelings radiate throughout your body. Try to get the happiness, love and respect to radiate from your heart out to your arms, through to your finger tips and down towards the bottom of your soles.
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Staying on Emotional and Money Budget during Christmas
It is never easy to downsize your budget, shrinking your monthly expenditures can make you feel like you are failing or falling behind the Jones. But taking responsibility for your money, time and emotional well-being during Christmas is so empowering you will soon be able to step outside your situation and be proud that you overcame a very, very tough economic climate and even thrived.
What is the least amount, of time, money and thoughtfulness, you feel comfortable spending on each gift?
Ask yourself the simple but honest question of what you can give others without spending money?
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