Don't be a dick just because you have one
Get real guys. Women have better and much more important things to do than pamper your sorry asses. The sense of entitlement that I hear about from women's hellish tales of men is worrisome. Men don't do better in life because they feel entitled, in fact often it makes living a vivid life nearly impossible. As a mother to a little son I worry about how I can teach him to be happy, to relish in the joy of others and to never feel entitled to these feelings of happiness. I want my son to go out and create his own happiness, to cultivate and grow joy in the world. Never to feel cheated because happiness didn't just bump him on the backside.
How can you lovely and emotionally intelligent men improve your path to a vividly lived life? First and foremost, avoid being a dick to others. It is a crass way to explain that kindness, a gentle spirit and strong mind are the tools you can use to build joy. How can you avoid being a dick to women?
Be helpful. Does she need the dishes washed, a sympathetic ear after a bad day? Help and take in the moment to listen. You will hear not just her true self more clearly but yours as well.
Don't even start with the thinking that you know better. One of my biggest personal lessons has been that I am a fool who knows nothing. Only accepting that it is fine to be empty will allow you to be filled with happiness, love and mindful kindness.
When you can't solve a problem, don't pretend you can. Let go of the need to prove your masculinity through deeds that will not improve a situation. Realize that you, as a good man, have value in more than completing tasks. The good women in your life will respect your admission of limitations.