Man, it's hard out here for a dude
What it means to be a man
I have been lucky enough in this life to be surrounded by wonderful men. But the recurring theme of any discussions on their feelings towards being a man today is a deep sense of being shuffled out of the way and ignored. We cannot continue to pretend men are just like women, we loose the value of each gender by doing so. If we can realize that men are inherently different in a lovely way than women then we begin to understand the need to communicate accordingly. Everything from schooling to family life has to work for both genders.
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What does it mean to be a whole, satisfied man today? Now that the archetypes for masculine and feminine have all but disappeared it is up to us to decide where we fall in the scale of male or female and it has little to do with gender.
By not only allowing but cultivating a sense of welling being and wholeness of existence in ourselves and our loved ones we give everyone a deeper, richer sense of life. No black and white lines to be drawn but a slow and thoughtful way to live a life filled with all the struggles and joys of a satisfying life.
Doing vs. conversing
What do you feel is your biggest challenge, your biggest reward?
Finding the moments in your life to fully experience something, whether it is a sweet time with your better half or a great swim in the ocean, can so easily be pushed under the carpet of everyday hassles. Yet when we take that moment to hold on for a few seconds to something beautiful it can change us in ways we never thought possible. We allow ourselves to experience something totally, to be engaged in a place and time and to enjoy it fully.
Next time you’re feeling happy make a few seconds to take in the moment and remember this time, it will last for only as long as we remember it.
Since we’re all over-tasked and over-worked already don’t make creating changes in your life for the better a task to get checked off an imaginary, or real if you are record orientated, list. Look at this process as something as easy as sitting down to watch TV. Just as you would watch a show watch your life, critique but be kind and remember all the effort you put into this world and that those around you put into their own lives. Learn to be in the small moments as much as the big ones and start to look over the world around you with a bit of wonder; you’ll be amazed how different the world looks when you look at it with a heart of joyfulness.
Being a man, a happy, fully realized man takes a great deal of work but the reward is the ability to live life with total awareness of both the good and bad. It takes a great deal of reasonability to grab the reins of life and purposely try to decide the course you wish to take.