<![CDATA[I Citizen Magazine - Articles]]>Wed, 13 Dec 2017 23:04:30 -0800Weebly<![CDATA[Should you travel with your baby when breastfeeding {Why You Should Breastfeed While Traveling}]]>Wed, 13 Dec 2017 18:30:00 GMThttp://icitizenmag.com/articles/should-you-travel-with-your-baby-when-breastfeeding-why-you-should-breastfeed-while-traveling
Can you leave your baby for a week long vacation while breastfeeding? I would suggest the answer is no. When you are still breastfeeding, baby not only needs your milk but also the comfort of you being near them. While you can pump milk on your trip to keep your supply up not all mothers react well to pumping and some produce very little milk unless they are nursing.

Every month I pretty much have to give up assignments that would involve too much time away from my son while he is so little. A great option may be to bring baby with you. While I know firsthand that a vacation with a little one doesn't offer much of a relaxing time baby will be much happier and so will mama.

By spending focused time on your vacation breastfeeding you're helping baby stay hydrated, fight off travel bugs and relax.

How to make breastfeeding fun on vacation
1. Babywear so you can hike the scenic trails and stroll the small streets of your destination.
2. If you're driving pack a foldable camping rocking chair. These are so comfy and you can set then up indoors and out for a relaxing breastfeed anywhere you stay.
3. Have dad take little one for a half day of fun while mom gets to mellow out and swim in the pool uninterrupted. 

<![CDATA[Mommy's Best Smile: Living a life that is worthy of smiles]]>Fri, 01 Dec 2017 18:30:00 GMThttp://icitizenmag.com/articles/mommys-best-smile-living-a-life-that-is-worthy-of-smilesPicture
What is your best smile, when are you the most filled with pure joy? I understand how often we forget to lay any value upon joyfulness. We get caught up in stresses and failures and forget to care about ourselves. When my son sees me smile he smiles too. He loves seeing his mommy happy and it makes me realize the value of having really good reasons to smile.

What was the last really great reason you had to smile?
I am all about helping other moms find a life that is worthy of smiles. Lets get inspired to be joyful not because someone else tells us we should “just smile” but because we create our lives. Lives that make us happy.

How you can get your best smile

1. Tell people to screw right off and bite you if they don't like what you are doing. It is liberating and joyous to stop caring about the negative and start caring about the positive.

2. Play with your children. Don't bring your phone, don't turn on the TV. Just play. Be ridiculous and silly and let your inner little kid out from the box you've been hiding her in.
3. Eat what you want and stopping worrying about how good or bad the food is for you. Relax and eat to enjoy yourself, not to fill yourself.
4. Love without boundaries. Don't put limits on how much someone can love you or how much you are allowed to love yourself. Go woman and BE love. You deserve all the love the universe has to give.

Being a mom teaches me everyday to focus on all the reasons I have to smile. Don't let the exhaustion of motherhood get your eyes so tired that they can't see all the joy right in front of them.

<![CDATA[Come Along for A Holiday Tree Hunt]]>Fri, 01 Dec 2017 18:30:00 GMThttp://icitizenmag.com/articles/come-along-for-a-holiday-tree-hunt
<![CDATA[Those last 10 pounds: who gets to write romance novels?]]>Sun, 19 Nov 2017 18:51:01 GMThttp://icitizenmag.com/articles/those-last-10-pounds-who-gets-to-write-romance-novels
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As November gets colder and we're stuck inside on early evenings I'm more interested in reading a good story. One of my favorite jobs as a self-employed blogger and vlogger is writing romance books. Why do I write romance, even though I often work in more self-hep and breastfeeding advocacy fields?
Because I love making women happy and one of the big things I've discovered that makes a busy mom happy is having a moment to themselves to read a little steamy fun.
At family gatherings this holiday I know, as I've gotten it before, I'll be asked in shocked tones how do I write romance. It is always a little silly how people, who often read the genre, are shocked to meet  romance writer. It's a fun job filled with long hours of editing and writing while my toddler climbs all over me.

Those Last 10 pounds was my first romance book to come out as a thank you for reading this blog I wanted to share an awesome 25% off code for smashwords only. If you head over to smashwords and order my book use coupon code SP77W at check out for your icitizen discount! 
<![CDATA[How can you Be Around Like-Minded People?{life in your 30's}]]>Wed, 01 Nov 2017 17:30:00 GMThttp://icitizenmag.com/articles/how-can-you-be-around-like-minded-peoplelife-in-your-30s
As we begin or sit firmly in our 30's it gets harder and harder to make new, adult friends who we honestly want to spend time with during our crazy busy weeks. Sometimes it's all luck but to have luck we have to put in the effort to meet new people.

How you can Be Around Like-Minded People:

Go to a class that has a bit more depth. Try a history class for feminists or a cooking class on your very favorite dish.

Go online. OK, I'm the first to admit that the internet is filled with weirdos (hey you're looking at one) but it can also be a great chance to meet new friends. Whether you join a mommy group, a book lovers Facebook group or a local meetup it can be a great way to meet new friends. 

Don't be afraid to ghost people when they can't take No for a complete answer. As you meet new folks and try to feel out friendships you've got to know when to pull the plug and say it is just not working.

What is like minded? This can be a totally surprisingly hard question to answer. What values have you discovered are keys to being good friends?

My cheat-sheet of easy answers are:

The same political views as myself. This is a time of deeply, aggressively polarized world views. I find I can't be friends with people who haven't put in any thought on why they believe what they do.
Love of the same foods. Food is one of my favorite activities to do with friends. Now, you may say, hey Rose food is not an activity. Well, I hate to disagree but... It is. Find people who love baking piazza at your house, who love going wine tasting or who want to drive on day trips to find the best brownie in the county.
A lover of travel. I love sharing my dumb mistakes and wild stories from my travels. I also really love hearing other people's personal travel tales. A great friend to me is one who can share in a love of seeing the world anew on each trip.

<![CDATA[A romance book for moms who love a lot of sweet heat]]>Fri, 20 Oct 2017 17:30:00 GMThttp://icitizenmag.com/articles/a-romance-book-for-moms-who-love-a-lot-of-sweet-heat
I love reading romance books but a lot of the time the stories in them are either too wholesome and without any real heat or about aggressive men who do nothing for me. The amount of 18 year olds with a thing for more experienced lovers leaves me feeling cold. So I wrote the first book in my series for real moms- it's sexy, very hot and still sweet enough so you feel good reading it and even better thinking about them after the book's done. 
Those Last 10 Pounds is filled with Lust, love and a little Fun Fitness.

<![CDATA[Why are breastfeeding women not sexual objects?]]>Fri, 20 Oct 2017 17:30:00 GMThttp://icitizenmag.com/articles/why-are-breastfeeding-women-not-sexual-objects
When you only view women as sexual it allows for a whole spectrum of abuse to be easily swept aside.
Overly sexualizing breastfeeding  mothers discourages moms from even attempting extended breastfeeding. Longer breastfeeding is tied to all variety  of health benefits for mom and little one but when the outside world sexualizes and harasses breastfeeding mamas women are much less likely to continue to breastfeed. If we want lower healthcare bills, more productive members of our society (hey GDH is important too) then we have to all band together and support breastfeeding as a natural, wholesome and non sexual activity.

57 percent of Americans think women should not have a right to breastfeed in public. I deal with a lot of comments from all over because of my breastfeeding education on YouTube. The overriding factor with every piece of obscene commentary is that people feel deeply unsettled when they are forced to realize that women's bodies are not sexual simply because the viewer thinks they should be.

When we demand respect, including while we breastfeed it unsettles the deeply rooted belief that women are sinful because our very existence is sexual. My work as a feminist breastfeeding advocate has opened my eyes and heart a lot more about how other people think they can force their fears on our bodies. Part of stepping out from under the suffocating weight of other people objectifying you is releasing fear. You don't need to fear judgment from fools.

Why Breastfeeding Women Aren't Sexual Objects:
1. No one else is an object of sexual gratification unless THEY give you permission to view them that way.
2. Saying, commenting on or telling women that they are sexual, even while feeding their own child, is devaluing them on a fundamental level.
3. Breastfeeding is not a sexual act. Breasts are not sexual during every act. If you think breastfeeding is sexual you have probably never feed a child from your breasts.

Be mindful of how you react to breastfeeding moms and lend gentleness to your thoughts on women's bodies. The first step in not objectifying breastfeeding bodies is to not objectify ourselves on a daily basis. You can not always change peoples' minds but you can work on your own thoughts and feelings. Never be afraid to breastfeed, whenever and wherever.
<![CDATA[The Happy, Gentle Guide to Breastfeeding]]>Tue, 17 Oct 2017 17:30:00 GMThttp://icitizenmag.com/articles/the-happy-gentle-guide-to-breastfeedingPicture
As a new mom I discovered that there aren’t a lot of simple breastfeeding guides. As my breastfeeding journey went on and I’m now breastfeeding a  3-year-old I could find nothing straightforward and readable for a busy mom.

You know what I did about it? I wrote my own guide that helps moms and their partners have a better, easier time breastfeeding.

Your nipple don’t have to crack and be painful

You partner doesn’t have to feel separate while you are breastfeeding

Breastfeeding can be fun

You don’t have to stay inside the whole time you’re nursing and stop being you

Milkosaurus can help guide you to happy breastfeeding

<![CDATA[What I loved about September]]>Fri, 13 Oct 2017 17:30:00 GMThttp://icitizenmag.com/articles/what-i-loved-about-september
September was  such a busy month for me. My breastfeeding guide, Milkosaurus, was released and my newest romance novella went on pre-order. My son and I spent September looking at preschools and boy are waiting lists long. I’m not sure what preschool we’ll wind up with but I know four hours a week will give him an exciting adventure without too much time away from home. It is so nerve racking finding a good environment that doesn’t break the bank. Often the school will look great but have too long of days or not be a good fit. October we find out which school he’ll go to and I am both excited to have a few a hours a week to myself and scared of if he will enjoy himself.  

This last month has been a big reminder to have gratitude for my life and everyone in it. My main YouTube channel really took off with an extra 6 million more views than I’d normally be getting a month. Woah, and amazing. I so love my YouTube community and finding which videos and vlogs connect the best. September was a total blast for making fun videos and sketching out what vlogs I want to shoot this fall. The downside of having a viral video this month has been the increase in really rude comments.

Before I started vlogging I would have never believed a motherhood channel could get such nasty comments and often from men. I had to take a bit of time off moderating the channel because it was just disheartening. October is going to be about coming back to the channels with renewed energy and focus. 

We traveled to Boston last month to see an old friend and it is the first time I’ve been to that city. What a great trip and fun way to see fall colors in New England. Seeing the leafs turn in New England has long been on my bucket list and it was thrilling and relaxing to get to see all the beauty of our big little country. Keep an eye out for fun fall tips as the weather gets cold here and the rainy days increase. 

Thank you so much for following along on my blog. I love seeing how many of you enjoy this site.

<![CDATA[How to be TRUTHFULLY yourself and HAPPY]]>Mon, 02 Oct 2017 17:30:00 GMThttp://icitizenmag.com/articles/how-to-be-truthfully-yourself-and-happy
Being a woman is difficult. Being a good person is super hard. Knowing yourself enough to be truthful to your own heart can be an impossible feeling.

What is the truth that guides you? When you think about being honestly and wholly yourself what is the big truth that you want to live up to?
Kindness is one of the biggest truths I find my heart always coming back to focus upon when being honestly myself. Kindness is about more than being nice. We have all met 'nice' people who really aren't very good at being kind.

Adding kindness to your life is one of the big steps to a vivid and joyous life Be your own best version of kind, everyday.

3 steps to being kind
1. Say what you mean and mean what you say.
2. Be kind to those when it is the hardest for you.
3. Practice kindness to yourself.

A second big truth in my life is not being disingenuous by faking interest or not being honest in my words. Life is too short to put up with all the bull-poopery. I have stopped excepting the nonsense of bad advice, false help and disingenuous niceness.
I use my words kindly but with meaning. If I think something is a bad idea I will now say so and be dishonestly polite. 
What is your second big truth to being yourself?
You can't be happy unless you're being honest with yourself.

1. Tell people to shut the fluff up when you do not want to hear nonsense.
2. Don't spend time with people just to be 'nice'.
3. Give your opinion freely but always with kindness.
4. Learn to shut up and not try for the last word.